How many times a day would you say you run into a hot-tempered, angry person? You know those people who don’t need you to give them a reason to be angry because they’ll find a reason to be angry or aggressive? Those of you who drive probably see these people every day on the road. I think it’s safe to say we all run into these kinds of people every day. I also think it’s safe to say that the prevalence of these kinds of people/behaviors increases every day, which is disheartening.
It’s disheartening to think that with all the terrible things that are going on in the world today, people can still become angry or aggressive with each other over the littlest things. It’s upsetting to see it happening to other people, and it’s just as upsetting, if not more, when it happens to you. It’s hard not to take things personally, not to feel targeted, and not to become defensive when you’re being attacked for seemingly no reason.
When you find yourself the target of these situations, it’s important to have tried-and-true ways to pick yourself up and not let those people get to you.
- Think about those people in your life that are the exact opposite. They’re always happy and bubbly, always ready to greet you with a smile and a hug, and life is always good. Think about them and remember that there are good people out there.
- Think about how far you’ve come and all the things you have in your life. You can think about school accomplishments; work accomplishments; your family, friends, or significant other that helped you get there…the list goes on. Look at all you’ve done, and the people that have supported you all the way, and remember that life isn’t half bad.
- Do your favorite things. Eat your favorite food, go to Starbucks and treat yourself to your favorite coffee, put on Netflix and binge watch your favorite show, or call your favorite people just to talk.
- Clean. Sometimes cleaning can be extremely cathartic. You’re physically getting rid of baggage and giving yourself a fresh, clean start. It’s a win-win situation: you’ll have a cleaner house, and you’ll have lifted up your spirits.
Let me just for a moment play devil’s advocate. We have all been the target of someone else’s problems, anger, aggression, you name it. But have we ever been the one to dish out the anger and aggression? I think it’s important to keep in mind those negative feelings we experience when we’re the target of someone’s anger and remember that we can sometimes intentionally or inadvertently instill those negative feelings on others.
Wouldn’t the world be such a nicer, safer place to live if instead of fighting and lashing out at each other, we could take a step back and hear each other out? Talk to me. Walk with me.